Resuming Your Sex Life after Illness Or An Operation

November 12, 2012

Resuming Your Sex Life after Illness Or An Operation

Any type of illness can affect your libido, but more so if it is in the genital area or even the stomach. What’s the best way to get back to a normal enjoyable sex life? Below are two types of problems which may cause sex to stop for a while and suggestions on how to get back on track.

Pelvic Inflammatory Disease

Pelvic Inflammatory Disease is an infection of the womb and the fallopian tubes which causes amongst other things lower abdominal pain and painful intercourse. It can be treated with antibiotics, but because of the painful symptoms it might create fear of intercourse even though the PID has been treated and is cured, because a woman might think that sexual activity will bring back the pain.

How to solve the problem

A lot of patience and care is needed with any problem that psychological rather than physical. Once you are completely better you and your partner should try gentle touching in the vaginal area, make sure you are both relaxed and comfortable and don’t rush things. Eventually you will find that the desire for sex will come back and you can progress until sexual intercourse can take place without fear or anxiety.

Abdominal Operation

After an abdominal operation you will probably be advised against sexual intercourse until any stitches have been removed and any swelling has disappeared. It may take some months before you feel interested in any form of sexual activity and even you may feel tense or nervous, or even feel anxiety about the operation scar. Some operations carry the risk of the nerve supply to your genital area being cut, so it is important to discuss this with your doctor before an operation and be aware of the consequences and the resolutions available. Your doctor will in most cases, inform you when you can resume sexual relations, he is confirming that your body is healthy enough to return to usual activity, but you should only resume sexual activity when you feel ready.

How to get back to normal

Make sure you and your partner communicate with each other, it’s no good if you want to try, but don’t tell him and he is too nervous to make the first move, in case it upsets you. Don’t go ahead with intercourse if you don’t feel ready. Your partner will surely prefer sex with you if he can see you are relaxed and enjoying it, rather than doing because you think you have to and being tense and nervous. Pick a time when you are both relaxed and happy, start off slowly and see how the mood take you. It may only take a short time before you are back to normal, but if it takes longer, don’t worry it will happen, these things can take time.

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